I was recently asked to describe life coaching- what it is, who its for, what we do in coaching sessions.
The way I think of it: it’s for anyone who has an issue or goal to work on, or who wants to be more effective, enjoy life more, be happier, set and reach goals, improve their relationships. To replace bad habits with those that serve you. To get better at solving problems and making decisions. To turn worry, judgement and overwhelm into positive action. To have less drama and more fun. To get unstuck.
Basically to take on your life in a more intentional way.
And always, with curiosity and compassion.
Coaching sessions are an opportunity to look at your life- what’s working and what’s not- with another set of eyes, from another perspective. To decide what you want for yourself, and then make that happen.
The first step is understanding how you got where you are now. Like every other human being, you meet each moment from within your own unique perspective and history and belief structure.
As you meet each situation, each interaction with another person, you engage with it: you have thoughts and opinions, emotions arise and you behave in certain ways. Through this engagement, you create new situations, new results.
This is an ongoing process of constantly creating your life experience. Which is always happening, whether you are aware of it or not.
The second step is: how do you use knowledge of this process to stop fighting with your spouse, lose weight for good, or stop worrying about your kids or your business? (Or whatever else doesn’t feel right in your world.)
Well, you have all kinds of options when it comes to how you meet the world, whether it be your husband, your dinner, your kids or your business we’re talking about. So that is where we start. We identify what needs to change to get you where you want to be. We make a plan. We tailor it to you and your situation.
Each week you expand your understanding of yourself, of what you want, of how to make that a reality. You apply what you learn. You begin to see evidence of improved relationships, habits, health, emotions. You build up awareness, skills and resources. You feel confident and empowered.
You are creating the life you want, on purpose.
I coach clients on their relationships with their adult kids, on creating a meaningful life, on their businesses or a career change, on weight loss, self confidence, grief, infertility, marital issues, artist block, worries about our country and about the pandemic. You name it.
The common thread is learning to see your blind spots, understanding where your power is and how to use it effectively to create the life you want.
p.s. Photo: me, with rutabaga, living my (mostly) intentional life.