All Shall Be Well

Take care of yourself.

Get outside.

Move your body. 

Spend time just being with yourself, listening, accepting, loving.

Have a pet? They will listen to your sorrows, keep your secrets and teach you that you are perfect exactly as is. 

Pick one thing that has been on your mind for awhile, rubbing like a pebble in your shoe. Take care of it. Take time, but do not belabor it. Think of it as a gift to yourself, and to the universe. Appreciate the giving, and the receiving.

Question your “shoulds”. Why is it important? Is it important? Would you benefit from a break from each other?

Watch a sappy movie- or even better, have a sappy conversation with someone you love. (Cats count.)

Know you are an amazing, worthy, lovable, perfect, unique being. This is always true, even when you can’t see it yourself. 

Be open to inspiration. There is a treasure trove out there. Here, click this link; I will share this sweet song with you:

All Shall Be Well

…so we can’t get it wrong

I think about my friend Allie, and I have to smile. 

Her voice, her laugh, her wit; her creativity and intelligence; the depth of her love and loyalty for friends and family; her commitment to the kids she works with.

There is no one else in the world like Allie.

When I think further, I realize that last statement is true of everyone I know, and in fact of everyone. There is no one that is exactly like anyone else.

What to make of this? The undeniable truth that each human being is absolutely unique. And in fact so is every living being, human or otherwise. 

It seems to me an everyday miracle.

An amazing truth that implies unlimited possibility of life expression.

To me it says 

  • the basis of our world- the natural/spiritual world we are part of- is variety, difference, creativity, expansion
  • all of us have our own part to play 
  • all beings are completely and exactly perfect
  • our life is ours to live, so we can’t get it wrong

And you, what does it say to you?

Thanks, Coach!

I was like a little kid who was mad at the world, kicking at the dirt. Throwing rocks. Finding excuses, pointing fingers, resenting others who I thought had achieved what I wanted so badly.

I was talking to my life coach; she listened for awhile, and asked questions. 

I told her I was about to give up, to walk away from a goal I’d been working toward for two years. It wasn’t happening the way I thought it should. I thought I should be further along. 

As we talked and I answered her questions I realized that underneath my resentment and blame were some very painful thoughts: 

I must not have what it takes to succeed. 

I’m not smart enough, I don’t have enough grit, 

I’m not disciplined enough.

You know that feeling, like a dam breaking, that tells you when you hit on something? The dam broke when I uncovered those thoughts. (Read: lots of tears.) It felt terrible. I felt heartbroken. If I believed those thoughts were true I would have to give up something that I loved, something that represented to me my highest self.

By lashing out at the world, I had been avoiding looking inward.

But when I did look, after the waterworks subsided, I realized that I didn’t believe those disturbing thoughts. Or maybe a little, but certainly not completely. I knew I had learned and accomplished and created so much already. I was well on my way toward my goal… just maybe not as fast as I had expected. 

What is the truth here? Neither: all these are subjective thoughts, opinions I could have about myself.

But let’s look at what happens when I choose to believe, even if unconsciously, that I must not have what it takes to succeed- not enough smarts, determination and discipline. I feel terrible, heartbroken. And then, fueled by that feeling: I blame and resent others, look for excuses, don’t work to figure out the hard stuff I need to master, I avoid coaching myself on my thoughts, and I want to give up. Basically, I kick dirt and throw rocks. 

Can you guess what the result of all that is? The result that originated with my “not good enough” thought? I am not using all I have- all my smarts, determination and discipline- that I need to succeed.

Now that is something I have complete control over! And it starts with choosing different thoughts.

What if instead, I consciously think these thoughts? I’m well on my way. I’m learning and growing every day. I’m creating something new, something valuable, out of my love, vision and dedication.

Climbs Mountains, One Step at a Time

Yesterday, I flew back to Seattle from Dallas, my mind buzzing from all I’d just experienced at The Life Coach School’s Mastermind for certified coaches. 

How will I apply that inspiration in my coaching, in my business, in my life? I thought about my resistance to learning the technology and business aspects of my coaching practice. Could I coach myself on my beliefs, move from “why does this have to be so hard and frustrating?” to “I’m going to figure each piece out, one by one, and own every bit of my business”? Could I embrace the challenge, work diligently, celebrate each bit of mastery? Cut the drama, stop whining, and get out of my own way?

For the first few hours of the flight I thought and wrote and dozed a bit.

As we neared Seattle the folks sitting next to windows raised the shades. We were flying right above a thick layer of white, with other big billowing clouds along the horizon. All whites and grays, everything in motion. The clouds beneath us shifted and opened up in spots, revealing the city below us. Farther off the sun broke through and lit up a section of clouds… so beautiful and mesmerizing, such constant flowing movement. 

I turned and saw that the young man in the seat next to me was also awed by the beauty out the window. We started talking. A firefighter and paramedic in Austin, he was taking a little time off to do some hiking on the Pacific Crest Trail. He’d backpacked various sections of the PCT before. He wasn’t bothered that rain was forecasted for his hiking vacation. He told me that he had changed his plans a little: his family was worried about him heading into the wilderness alone, so he decided to rent a car, drive from trail head to trailhead, and do day trips this time.

Here is what struck me: he was going to a whole lot of trouble and expense to quietly take on some tough mountains. Alone and in the rain. With no attitude about adjusting his plans for his family or the cold rainy weather. Friendly and open, curious about my trip to his home state, about life coaching and living in Washington.

No drama. Does hard things. Chose a career of service to those in distress. Chooses to challenge himself physically and mentally in his free time. Climbs mountains, one step at a time.

Taylor, thank you for showing up in the seat next to me, embodying qualities to aspire to. Happy trails to you!